Well it seems like spring is the season of hook ups and now that we are into summer we have officially crossed the threshold into break up season…sigh…..usually it can wait till fall but this year we have a rash of early season crashes and burnings hahaha I never like to dwell on negativity but as this conversation has come up several times in the past days amidst this rash of relationship wrecks, I figured I’d add my particular brand of “wisdom” into the break up ring.
I think I am almost the only one of my girlfriends who are anti-living together, besides the ones who are now breaking up in part due to this. I wonder if in this day and age ( as time magazine calls it ” the age of ME ” ) if it is a natural thing at all to settle down and marry or co-habit together. I am firmly in the “age of me” after following the seemingly “natural” path of losing yourself in a relationship and especially in the whole “playing house” not-so-merry-go-round.
I see marriage and living together as the death knell for any romance and or sexuality. It’s like a slow moving cancer that eats away the mystery of the person you fell for and so wanted to be around all the time.
When you have to wake up next to the same person’s nasty morning breath, back hair, raccoon eyes every morning for months/ years at times it is bound to get stale. I have been speaking to five of my friends the past day both male and female and all said the same thing, whether they were still with there SO or had split up…. people get complacent in relationships. Of course this will happen whether or not you live together, but I believe the relationship decay process is a lot slower when you have your own home/life to return to.
Both the male and female friends all had similar comments about their former or present situations and none of it was flattering. When you get comfortable with someone to a certain extent your stop caring about them or what they think of you. Girls eat like birds, picking at salads on dates etc, yet don’t mind drinking beer, and ordering in takeout 4 times a week once you live together everday. Men are sweet and helpful when they stay at your house and would never dream of leaving your toilet seat up, or making jokes about their bathroom habits ( ahem the “dutch oven” is enough to sour you for life ) when they are just staying the night or dating you. You get irritated easier and seeing someone everyday makes it easier to take out your irritation on them. Nagging gets easier for women, and laziness gets easier for men. In this age when we can hire maids and cooking skills don’t live up to the delivery place one can order from…. well girls, I fail to see what living together will do to make your relationship stronger than it is when you live alone and get to see your partner on dates or just a few nights instead of every night.
Myself, if you hadn’t gathered it already am extremely against living together and by extension marriage as well. I love the excitement that I get when I haven’t seen my significant other for a while. I’m the same as any other girl I want more a lot of the time too, but I find that these days you are sacrificing so much for so little in return when you jump into co-habitation. I love my space, I love my me time, I love having my own life, and being able to have that excitement and anticipation is not easily traded for the ability to clean his dirty bathroom and share a toothbrush holder I agree with Oprah, the way to keep the romance for the longest time is having things that are always separate in your love lives.
This is an ode to having your own life, and being able to enjoy what the peek into someone else’s can bring you…. To great sex that never gets dull… to new horizons all the time… and an end to boredom
I feel The Jock’s ego is dying for a boost, and by gawd he did let his birthday go by with nary a present from me…. so what can a lil ego stroking hurt?….mmmmm stroking ha ha ha I’m in a good mood what can I say? . My face is all flushed and I’m feeling quite fine and….maybe Mr. A had some slight influence on this …..perhaps…
The Jock told me this morning to write about our little AM affair And I am a dreadful sex gossip and so of course I enjoy sharing some juicy details with the world at large ha ha ha….
I very much like a guy in control… doesn’t have to be rough or crazy or even kinky though all of that is great but I love it when a guy knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to ask for it or just take it…the sexiest men are forward and take-charge kind of guys. So The Jock got definite brownie points this morning for that In general the best sex for me is sex with a lot of variety and where its very passionate…and hopefully I’m walking a little more gingerly the next day. So the time to be gentle and treat me like I’m breakable is after sex ( being sweet and cuddling after rough sex is a DEFINITE must ) but the thing I HATE is when your man holds back. I don’t want to, so neither should he have to.
Great sex definitely has edge, and today’s sex started off with a bang hahaha The Jock was kissing me really passionately ( this is <strong>always</strong> a good thing and just really took control and pushed me down on the bed and started rubbing against me through our clothes. That felt quite nice …. not a slow rub but really hard rubbing against me so my heart beat starts going and I cant wait for clothes to come off and I pushed myself against him as well. Maybe I’m not the regular girl, but I love it when there is no waiting or buildup when the guy just pushes in with no warning…the lil pain is soooooooooooo worth it. Foreplay can come on Round 2
I’d really like to have the guys viewpoint on what he likes, and what really blows his socks off as well I shall be getting stories from my male friends but welcome my male viewers ( AND The Jock!!! YES YOU! ) to tell me what you aren’t getting enough of, and the little thing your partner does that curls your toes So keep posted
Abigail xxx
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I am usually a detail girl and would give you all more play by plays but certain ahem *cough cough* “people” have said my writings are way too long ass for my male viewers so i did my best to be titillating within a word budget I wanted to go further!! anyhoo this clip was sooooooooooo priceless i had to share
Gawd! All day my brain has been overheating trying to think of what to write to you my avid fans I have shot myself in the foot I realize now, because I sacrificed my anonymity to The Jock and *ahem cough, cough* maybe a few others who reallllly shouldn’t get to read these my deepest darkest innermost thoughts and desires
But …sigh…This is a responsibility I do not take lightly, and yes…I am here for all you perv’s yet again Ok off the top of my head subjects that i was interested in I decided to take to the source so to speak I decided to tonight, go to a few of my nearest and dearest girlfriends and ask them to contribute with me to answering some of the following scintillating questions… Well… stimulating to us and hopefully very Informative for you boys
So My base outline of questions went like this:
-Does having a threesome make you a whore?
-Will a boyfriend think less of you after having a threesome?
-Why are women typically drawn to “bad” men?…..
-Are men drawn to women the same way? ( as in if a girl is very “liberal” is a guy more into her, or less? *not talking about dimestore hookers here, talking liberated women who know what they want especially in the bedroom and exude sexuality , not whorishness
Things snowballed from there… ha ha ha and there is another one?? Who likes Snowballs ( and NO you uninformed peons!! not the cold ones!! ) So here is what I compiled from myself and a bunch of very reputable feminine Montrealers
The women all agreed that the appeal of the ” bad boys” comes down to wanting a challenge, someone who cant be put under our thumb right away. We want a balance between knowing they lust after us and yet knowing we cant necessarily crook our finger and have them run to us as a lot of guys are very keen on doing. Woman love drama and all the highs and lows that brings no matter how we complain they are the ones that we will think about most before bed . One thing they say in consensus is that bad boys will not last long ……the ones with staying power have more ….Edge is what girls are constantly seeking… something to keep us on our toes…women can get bored just as easily as men, we just will take longer to let you know how bored we are with you . And at the top of the ” bad boy ” list is that they make sex exciting….. that things never get complacent and a girl feels wanted and desired…even a sex object at times which isn’t necessarily a bad thing . But as girls of course have much higher sex drives than boys , bad boys tend to keep things exciting in that area .
The girls then inevitably went on to what turned them off and these were very unanimous Woman want passionate men, they want men who are motivated and have their own lives. He needs to exhibit a lust for life and most of all for us. We want a man to exhibit his sexual desire for us. We don’t want to guess! The same way you men hate it when we hint around about being pissed off at you! We want to hear you say it when you are thinking of wanting to fuck us, even if you want to watch porn or need to look at other women from time to time ….we accept this and in some cases embrace it ( well at least the porn ha ha ha ) We fantasize about you too, and we would love to tell you this, but women repress their sexuality unless men make it ok for us…by telling us how they want to come home from work and “without even saying hi, bend us over the couch and fuck us till we cant stand” hahah ok this was one of “our” fantasies but you get the idea If you make it ok, you are going to have all the sex you want and as hot as you can get it . We want you to be DIRECT, tell us when your horny, why, what you want and how you want it etc….you will rarely, if ever be turned down. hahahaha Or else all my girlfriends and I are just super freaks We are open to this as well ;)…..Basically we HATE timid men.
So onto the big threesome dilemma…. now this was a VERY long talk with the girlfriends and I was very happy with the input I got so thanks again girls…and me hahah SO…..
Basically the idea of a threesome was very appealing to all the girls across the board (we are going to speak only of FFM threesomes tonight, sorry men ), but the girls had certain stipulations and all said as long as these were honored they honestly couldn’t object to the idea YAY! boys ha ha ha
The girls were unanimous on there being able to pick the girl that they introduced to your “relationship”, all were agreed that they wouldn’t go pick someone that you men couldn’t be attracted to as well, but that having the control to pick the hot girl would make them very comfortable with the situation. Almost all, I was shocked to discover, agreed that if they could pick an escort out, online and arrange everything, that they wouldn’t see much of an obstacle to going ahead with it. Basically an escort takes away any jealous feelings. Most regular women consider themselves a step above escorts and they feel comfortable never having to worry about their men going after the escort, or worry about meeting her in public etc. This way she could release herself, and by extension her man…. to just lie back and enjoy
Basically it all came down to trust and making your girl feel totally secure….That you think she is a goddess and that you are totally attracted to HER and it is merely the act of TWO women pleasuring you and each other that turns you on, and that you want to share this WITH her and BECAUSE it’s her…. NOT that your bored of her or that there is something lacking in your relationship and only another woman can solve it. She and we all want to know that you want to have a threesome SPECIFICALLY with us, not because we lack anything, but because your turned on by us already and this can only ENHANCE the relationship that is ALREADY there… this applies to even mainly sexual relationships…. and perhaps even more so in that type of relationship …
The last worry that girls have over threesomes again …sigh…. sadly comes back to Madonna/whore. They want to be able to enjoy it too, and not have to worry that you will judge them after its over. They don’t want you to think they aren’t relationship material when your finished. As long as they know they will be appreciated as much after as before, the girls were all generally quite ….mmmm..positive about the idea
Women have issues with monogamy as well boys …. they look at other boys too, just more discreetly. They wonder if lifelong monogamy might not be impossible…everyone is human….But they and I think that by incorporating BOTH of your deepest fantasies, well….. this can keep the relationship going strong a lot longer and happier…Freedom is so important and commitment would be so much easier if you knew your desires were respected and had a chance of happening .
Women just want to have someone who makes them feel gorgeous, hot, and sexy……… they will do anything for you, including giving and enjoying lots of kinky fantasy filled sex with you if they feel this way They just want you to be honest and communicate things, don’t pretend to not have these feelings.
And for god sake have your own lives!! I and a few (though admittedly not all of my gf’s) do not believe in trying to play house after a few dates. Sex at least 3 times a week is a DEFINITE MUST in a relationship of any kind but NO moving in right away. Gawd!! what a way to ruin great sex and fun times, than by bringing housekeeping into it!!! Not all girls are dying to play Suzy Homemaker right away and this doesn’t mean they don’t love and adore you, but the best relationships are when you each have full lives and your own friends and hobbies too, enough so you actually WANT to see them more Just a few cents of ours
*sidenote!! this does NOT mean we don’t want you to hold our hands, open doors and be sweet (we will return the favor in our womanly ways ) we didn’t start the feminist revolution don’t take it out on us! *
Anyhow Boys and Girls i had soooooooooooooo much fun with this and can’t wait to hear from the boys Next weeks lesson : Whats Kink and whats Sick?…….. bondage? Slapping you in the face…latex…. tell all Until then…..
So a certain The Jock was talking to me today and said he was ok with me gossiping about all his dirty business, to you all the viewing public So Generous, no? I get the feeling The Jock wants a lil’ ego boost Anyhow rather than bore y’all with descriptions of his “beans and weiners”, I thought this actually could be an interesting post on the topic of ego’s, sexual prowess, genitalia, naming genitalia, and anything else my evil brain decides merits my attention.
Well one cat I’ll let out of the bag is that yes, girls are just as bad as guys when it comes to discussing our sex lives. The only difference between the slap on the back locker room talk that men participate in ( Of course I’m sure this is all rumor and certain someone-someone’s never mention me to any unnamed buddies ) is that we women are ALL about the details. We aren’t satisfied with a “wham bam thank you ma’am” description… no, no we give our girlfriends play by plays from start to finish. We will rehash and critique it like Carbonneau has no doubt been going over the Hab’s tapes We get right into the nitty gritty, and details are everything. We will go over motion, speed, kissing skills, equipment size until we can see everything out before us and are satisfied Amongst girls there are no secrets…and after we have given the play-by-play well then the critiques and the “help” comes out It’s a long process…..As for The Jock you ask? hahah Well he seems very very persistent in finding out from me or those close to me what I think of him in the “sexual arena”. But…….hahaha I don’t know if the final analysis is in yet…hahah so far what I can say is his “beans and wieners” are quite tasty …. Well developed and served hot hahah As I make my judgment on him I’ll keep you all posted
As for genitalia talk, yeah we are all there probably much worse than the boys in the locker room Today I was informed of a new name for mine….Apparently being born in a barn has its draw backs, when you are unaware of a common term for a womans nether regions….namely the “hair pie”, and the “fur burger”…..What is with that????? Ha ha I have never heard anything so unsexy in my life. And something about a stinky finger??? Trust me boys, we make you sound good! No one is calling y’all dill pickles!! ( ok i have heard a few mentions of “pinky’s and pencil’s” but thats still respectful ) We will lie our guts out for you, even if just to make ourselves look good I don’t know how many countless times my friends have started relationships raving about the size of their boy friends “tackle”, and then when the novelty wears off, finding out they are shaped like a triangle, they smell like bleach, they have to ask if its in……. yada yada it goes on But be assured that in the beginning you all sound like super-humans Luckily for The Jock he said that while I may have “pie”, it is more equivalent to apple or blueberry hahahahaha Now THERE’s a compliment I seem to be daily finding new words/names for our illustrious equipment so please keep me updated on all the latest developments
Ahhhh yes onto sexual prowess….. This actually interests me rather a lot as all my very short extremely young life , I’ve heard all these tales of men only being able to think about sex, and having stamina like the energy bunny to match their libido’s. WHAT KIND OF OLD WIVES TALE ARE Y’ALL TRYING TO SPIN???? Honestly men out there, my girlfriends are constantly complaining about how there men never give them enough. That they are almost always wanting to have sex but are never getting what they want. I must admit that my meager experience has proven this true. Either every girl I know is a whore through and through( possible but not probable ha ha ha ) OR you men have propagated the scam of the century Yes, yes, yes boys, I hear your arguments, “we do all the work” yada yada, “girls get to lie there and enjoy the show” bla bla bla! NO EXCUSES! Any girl worth her salt is more than willing to carry her weight. Whether that be unparalleled oral skills, or super hero like riding skills my girls and I , well we give no excuses!! What is the amount of sex men want a week per partner? Are my friends exceptions to the rule? Are you being given the headache excuse left and right? Or are we wearing you out with all our sexual demands? ha ha ha Come on juicy details y’all, It’s all anonymous
Honestly forget world peace, we need to get women and men together and honestly figure out all our sexual issues and then men and women will relax and the world can move on This is an interesting subject and sex and relationships make the world go around so please send emails and add comments so we can talk more
Anyhow I heard Firemen do it better……. hahahaha As time goes by I shall keep you posted and let you know the truth behind the myth ;)So far I find their dancing the best feature so far Enjoy!
I want to talk about me… I want to relieve my tortured soul hahaha …I want to put my insides on the outside. I am the Madonna and the Whore rolled up and mushed together into one insane entity . I am trying to gain direction in this blog but my thoughts are all over the place on this subject, which I feel so passionately about. And why do I feel it so passionately about it now? Honest truth? I am crazy mass of hormones right now and all I want to do is fuck away this feeling ha ha. Even sounds strange for me to say that as I am a “good girl” and rarely swear but this is EXACTLY how I feel ;) ha ha ha.
I accept guys at face value…point in case the man I am sleeping with right now is kind of “being bad” with me. That’s it …. ha ha ha I do not judge him or think that somehow he is a bad person or an asshole because he is cheating. There is not one blanket rule for people’s behavior no matter what you may think of it. There are extenuating circumstances and exceptions to every rule and I allow for that, while also being smart and realizing that a person becoming an asshole/bitch is always possible but not a forgone conclusion.
I want that too in regards to having days where I am crazy hormonal and insanely aroused, but not being judged as a “true” whore, who just because she is “horny” will go out and sleep with a random man. I believe there is a huge difference between girls being in touch with there sexuality and knowing what they like and wanting it a lot, and girls who sleep around to feel better about themselves as a person or get some attention from random men. I have never slept with many men, I’m downright chaste when it comes to amount of partners, but i still have felt judged from time to time because I’m an extremely sexual person with a high sexual drive. I feel the difference in being sexually open and a whore is lack of control. I am extremely sexual but completely in control of that sexuality and how and who I use it on .
I am an easy going person who is very open minded and I want the person I’m intimate with to be able to tell me everything they fantasize about. Everything that pops into someones head I’m interested in hearing, whether its from how crispy you like your toast, to your favorite position. And I am exclusive in my behavior. I feel like if I’m honest with anyone I’m sleeping with about my desires he will think that I cant control myself and feel this way for every guy who excites me a bit. So far from the truth….While I will kick your ass to the curb if I feel under appreciated, taken advantage of or not respected….. other than that I am an honest open book. I am a “whore” for one person at a time ;) lucky them wheeeeeeeeee hahahah. That is as far as my moral compass goes. I have no definite plans, I don’t know what the future brings, I take it as it comes while trying to stress out as little as possible.
Hahaha where is this all going? What has my rant brought me? nada! hahahaha more frustration! So men…..Why are you this way? What influences you to put girls into only two categories? I am firm in believing that every girl is a mass of sub categories…. What do you want? Do you believe there are girls who are only for sleeping with, and then “good girls” to marry/be in a relationship with, or am I completely off base and do you like girls who are in touch with there sexuality? Do you want a girl to tell you when and how she wants you no matter how dirty? Or would you rather a girl let you lead the way and only acquiesce to your desires? Does it turn you on or off if a girl tells you she wants you to treat her like a whore in the bedroom sometimes?
I’m as always open to answering any and every question , and I really hope a few of you can weigh in and help me come to some conclusions in my own mind.
Anyhow my lil tantrum has passed I’ll leave this up for a day or two till I’m embarrassed .
Moi!!! Boys and girls this is the direction I am taking this delicious blog…..spicy and bordering on dirty.. but just rimming it Yes I said it The above title is a reference my friends have said suits me and my lil blog perfectly….so this is it;) My hormones and hyperactivity are going insane right now and you all need to share this!!! The happy hardcore trance is turned up loud and Kate is ready for business! HAHAHA
So yes this is what my adoring public has informed me, they want sex, sex, some more sex and oh did I mention…..sex?;) My own sex life may not have the excitement you all are craving ( And yes! YOU may take that personally…YES YOU!! I’m pointing at you!!!! Don’t pretend to be dense )…………….but luckily I am the queen of gossip and what I don’t have…well….if I want it I’ll get it Is that enough of a promise for you all?
So…… now some guidelines people…. I DON’T DO BORING I am not Sue Johansen and this is not the Sunday Night Sex Show….. it’s gotta be better That’s the only taboo, I’ll answer any questions you ask of me honestly and survey all my friends as well. I take my rightness very seriously, and I shan’t let any of you down. So I await all your comments and my own inspiration though hahahah that is seriously flagging right now * ahem cough cough in general direction of certain someones *…..
Kate~ xoxoxxx
Yes the Obsession Continues……;) Seeing as I cannot think of anything but Gerard Butler lately I’ve decided to peruse his collected genius and try and bring you some highlights. Luckily for all of us Romance lovers, Gerard must also be since his movies are saturated with immense love stories. And the Phantom of the Opera is no exception, it is filled with all my favorite romance and pageantry. Again I was amazed at Gerard’s talent, he sings all his own songs in this movie and shows off an amazing voice seeing as he had no formal training besides singing in a rock band before taking on this role. I know musicals are not for everyone , and at times this includes me as well, but the Phantom is in a class all on its own. It is at the top of the game and it is romance at its most dramatic It is a work of art and beautiful to look at even if the sound were down. My only complaint is we don’t get to see enough of Gerard. This just shows me again how diverse he can be God, all the other men are paling in comparison now ha ha ha Im turning into a stalker but hopefully at least you all can enjoy my obsession a bit All my friends have deserted me in my obsession already I was reduced to going to see Nim’s Island all by myself to support Gerard:) Well worth it though, and adventure that both adults and children will love very sweet and fun. And Gerard looks better all the time, I’ll share that soon too Anyhow here are TWO beautiful songs from The Phantom of the Opera I hope you enjoy:)
I found the most romantic song and I just had to share it with you all.It is romance personified, and just spoke to me. Myself I need to identify with music, and just like my favorite movies this is a song I totally identified with. Sometimes when we break up or somehow love goes awry we miss the point I think.I think living in the moment and enjoying every feeling while it lasts and living for now is the best message. Life can be fleeting just like romance and what applies for life applies for love. Enjoy every glorious moment of love even if your fearful that it wont last. The moment of love and having felt it, makes it still worthwhile and you need to embrace it and remember how wonderful being in love feels or felt(all those butterflies and that delicious tension :)) That makes it worth it, even if it sometimes feels like your just “Chasing Pavements”. So please don’t take one moment for granted and if your in love now enjoy it, and if your not now enjoy and embrace the moments you have had or look forward to the ones coming up Enjoy Adele, this is only one of her many fabulous songs check her out
Yet again I have a new favorite…..yes I am now torn between Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind and 300 . I think it will be impossible to choose as they are oceans apart, but equally amazing. As I said in my last post about P.S I Love You ( I’m waiting to give you the full review for that till I can take some more time and really do it justice) , I am obsessed with Gerard Butler and Kiss will be saturated with his movies soon I’m sure no one can complain as he’s been in some stellar movies and by gawd he is amazing to look at Again as I’ve said time and time again I’m amazed I forgot about how much I adore this film. It is an experience above and beyond the norm. I saw it when it first came out last winter in the Cinema and I was enthralled from start to finish. I had been waiting from the first preview I had seen online months beforehand, I was super excited but I know that I tend to be letdown often as well when I get that hyped; but this movie delivered and more. Seriously I was in the cinema shouting and pumping my fists in the battle scenes, and enthralled in the passionate ones. Again this movie though on the surface maybe it seems like a war movie or strictly action , but it is DEFINITELY a love story. Everything revolves around King Leonidas love for his Queen Gorgo and his country which she is behind as well. This movie is like a moving painting, it is visually stunning. Every movement of fabric, hair and muscle is pure beauty. The scenery and effects are just stunning and awe inspiring. Seriously as I write, at this instant, I wish I could watch it again. This isn’t the greatest clip, but it gives a good overview and I hope you can get a small taste of the greatness of this film. Or enjoy it all over again I will make my own clip for this film soon to really do it justice. For now I hope you enjoy this little taste
I know we’ve had little blips of The Notebook on Kiss before, but I’ve been perusing it again and feel it needs in depth analysis This is my favorite scene with the young Noah and Allie as they enter the swamp ( pond , swamp whatever that big water thing they’re in with canoe is;)). It is so quiet and understated leading up to the big kiss everything is so subtle and then bam! Passion! ha ha ha I was determined to hate this movie before I saw it as I believe there is a difference between true romance and cheddar, and the few clips I had seen and the friends who had recommended it made me think it was gonna be ooey gooey. And it was, Ooey goooey GOOD! This is true romance and the ending of this movie is what made it the best. Without ruining it for those who haven’t seen the full movie the ending is a testament to true and lasting love. Anyhow this movie is among my favorites…I know, I know I say that alot but it is so true. This movie is a love story that lasts, its timeless in its story, its characters and the movie itself. It is definitely one to add to your collections. So here is my favorite scene from the movie ( beware halfway through it gets kinda steamy pg-13 ;)) I hope you all enjoy as much as me
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hahaha I never like to dwell on negativity but as this conversation has come up several times in the past days amidst this rash of relationship wrecks, I figured I’d add my particular brand of “wisdom” into the break up ring.
ha ha ha I’m in a good mood what can I say? . My face is all flushed and I’m feeling quite fine and….maybe Mr. A had some slight influence on this 
I shall be getting stories from my male friends but welcome my male viewers ( AND The Jock!!! 
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